Beryl Jarlov divorced her first husband and returned to Rotorua with her two year old son Richard, back to living at her mother's house. Still trying to come to grips with things, one of her first outings was going to the Forestry Ball with a man she had met (Rotorua is the centre of a lot of forestry and timber mill operations). While dancing with her, he asked "Have you been through the mill?" Beryl wasn't sure what to do - slap him, start crying or whatever. She had had a rough time of it the previous years but didn't think it showed all that much. After hesitating a minute, waiting for her to answer, the guy finished the sentence with "Because if you haven't, I can show you through on Friday".
Yes, he worked at the sawmill, and was just trying to make polite conversation...
Betty Jarlov to Averil Jarlov in June 2007:
Betty remembers hearing the story - but with the man in question being Axel Jarlov, who later married Beryl.